I appreciate your perspective on this. In a very happy and healthy relationship now compared to past toxic relationships, it seemed they felt they had the authority to take advantage of my empathetic nature and “send me into the kitchen to make them a sandwich” in a demeaning, servant-like manner. That emotional pushback fueled my personal instincts of needing to be perceived as stronger and non-stereotypical easily pulled me into the narrative that women can and have every means to fight for their abilities to “do whatever a man can do.” In the experience living in a man’s world, I have proven strength… but I have also proven aggression, and lost myself entirely.
My now partner and I have mutual understanding and respect for each other. He gave me room and encouragement to find my true self and wants to protect my physical and emotional needs. I’m happy to say now that I would ideally love to cook for my man and provide around the house, especially if it makes life easier and happier for him overall while providing financial support and leave room for us to be our own people. That is still teamwork.

Beautifully put.